Comments on: Depression- A View From the Inside http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/ Breaking All the Rules I Didn't Make Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:32:00 -0600 hourly 1 By: Alicia http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-7757 Alicia Mon, 22 Dec 2008 00:02:27 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-7757 Glad to hear it was just one off day. Hang in there girl... and remember, EVERY Mama deserves a break now and then! Call a sitter when you get one of those days, and tell your husband to deal with dinner. You DO deserve it! Glad to hear it was just one off day. Hang in there girl… and remember, EVERY Mama deserves a break now and then! Call a sitter when you get one of those days, and tell your husband to deal with dinner. You DO deserve it!

]]> By: Open Sphincter, Remove Head. | Suburban Oblivion http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-7276 Open Sphincter, Remove Head. | Suburban Oblivion Sun, 31 Aug 2008 15:10:35 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-7276 [...] how to really explain it, other than that with the stress of the divorce going on, I began having issues with my depression again, only a bit worse than I have had in the past. I became moody, avoided friends, stayed out of [...] [...] how to really explain it, other than that with the stress of the divorce going on, I began having issues with my depression again, only a bit worse than I have had in the past. I became moody, avoided friends, stayed out of [...]

]]> By: Natasha http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-7248 Natasha Mon, 25 Aug 2008 06:08:59 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-7248 As someone who battles depression, with suicidal tendencies, as someone who knows a lot of people with serious depression, this did not read like "depression" to me at all. Every mom has days like this. Not every mom feels like I do. Depression from the inside, for every person I know who has been diagnosed by a professional as having Depression, sounds like this: Utter, deep hopelessness. An inner death. Nothing brings amusement, entertainment, promise, optimism, relief. All you want to do is sleep forever. You start to wonder if your kids would be better off with you gone. You wonder if maybe they'd be better off gone with you, so they didn't have to be motherless. You cannot imagine it ever getting better. It's always, always, always going to be this dark, this living hell. Your mind is a chaos of thoughts fighting with each other. You vaguely remember happier times but you can't really remember the feelings of being happy. You just logically know that you were, must have been, happier at some point in your life. But never again. As someone who battles depression, with suicidal tendencies, as someone who knows a lot of people with serious depression, this did not read like “depression” to me at all. Every mom has days like this. Not every mom feels like I do.

Depression from the inside, for every person I know who has been diagnosed by a professional as having Depression, sounds like this:

Utter, deep hopelessness. An inner death. Nothing brings amusement, entertainment, promise, optimism, relief. All you want to do is sleep forever. You start to wonder if your kids would be better off with you gone. You wonder if maybe they’d be better off gone with you, so they didn’t have to be motherless. You cannot imagine it ever getting better. It’s always, always, always going to be this dark, this living hell. Your mind is a chaos of thoughts fighting with each other. You vaguely remember happier times but you can’t really remember the feelings of being happy. You just logically know that you were, must have been, happier at some point in your life. But never again.

]]> By: Cricket http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6687 Cricket Thu, 03 Apr 2008 23:40:07 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6687 Great post, I can really relate. I have written something similar. It was an email to someone explaining how I was feeling that day. I think I might make it into a post. I think when we read things like this from others, it makes us not feel so isolated, or panicked that's there's something seriously "wrong" with us. Everyone has days like these. So, did you get through the day without killing anyone? SWEET! visit me @ http://beingbooga.com Great post, I can really relate. I have written something similar. It was an email to someone explaining how I was feeling that day. I think I might make it into a post. I think when we read things like this from others, it makes us not feel so isolated, or panicked that’s there’s something seriously “wrong” with us. Everyone has days like these. So, did you get through the day without killing anyone? SWEET!

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]]> By: First Ourselves/Karly Pitman http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6597 First Ourselves/Karly Pitman Tue, 18 Mar 2008 23:20:45 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6597 Oh, I have been there. I battled on and off depression for over 9 years, and even now, sometimes it creeps around the edges of my life. At its lowest point, I was depressed to the point that I fantasized about suicide. Thank for your honesty and sharing your story. I know when I started sharing my pain with others, it helped both me and them, particularly when I talked with other women who had suffered from depression. One thing that greatly helped me reclaim my life was putting myself first. It may sound heretical, but by taking care of me, and my needs, and my health and wellbeing, I served everyone around me: my family and children, too, and not just myself. This is how I live today: mothering and nurturing myself as well as I mother and nurture my children. Best, Karly Pitman Oh, I have been there. I battled on and off depression for over 9 years, and even now, sometimes it creeps around the edges of my life. At its lowest point, I was depressed to the point that I fantasized about suicide.

Thank for your honesty and sharing your story. I know when I started sharing my pain with others, it helped both me and them, particularly when I talked with other women who had suffered from depression.

One thing that greatly helped me reclaim my life was putting myself first. It may sound heretical, but by taking care of me, and my needs, and my health and wellbeing, I served everyone around me: my family and children, too, and not just myself. This is how I live today: mothering and nurturing myself as well as I mother and nurture my children.

Best,
Karly Pitman

]]> By: eating disorder treatment http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6574 eating disorder treatment Tue, 11 Mar 2008 21:43:20 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6574 These are the words that describe all my days since the kids were born. Even if I tried to speak my mind I couldn't have found better words. A 10 minute break everyday helps me getting up every day. I let my kids play and I watch them without letting them see me. It's the best break I can take. It relaxes me to see them happy, healthy and laughing. These are the words that describe all my days since the kids were born. Even if I tried to speak my mind I couldn’t have found better words. A 10 minute break everyday helps me getting up every day. I let my kids play and I watch them without letting them see me. It’s the best break I can take. It relaxes me to see them happy, healthy and laughing.

]]> By: Kori http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6504 Kori Thu, 06 Mar 2008 17:14:41 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6504 Just barely got to this blog so am posting on something old, but hey, been there. I remember two years ago, locking myself in the bathroom at work while pumping breast milk and crting uncontrollably. Bad days, bad weeks, we none of us are alone. Great post! Just barely got to this blog so am posting on something old, but hey, been there. I remember two years ago, locking myself in the bathroom at work while pumping breast milk and crting uncontrollably. Bad days, bad weeks, we none of us are alone. Great post!

]]> By: Babyamore (Trish) http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6267 Babyamore (Trish) Mon, 28 Jan 2008 11:31:37 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-6267 very enlightening - thanks for sharing I have days or maybe hours like this too. I guess by now you are doing much better as you stated. There's nothing like getting it off your chest or out of the draft in your mind. I do this ! I have learned it is completely normal to reach breaking point and when you do, to have the ability to remove yourself from your children for a moment and ask for help from your husband or friend -this is what matters. very enlightening – thanks for sharing I have days or maybe hours like this too. I guess by now you are doing much better as you stated.
There’s nothing like getting it off your chest or out of the draft in your mind.
I do this !
I have learned it is completely normal to reach breaking point and when you do, to have the ability to remove yourself from your children for a moment and ask for help from your husband or friend -this is what matters.

]]> By: Karen http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-5503 Karen Wed, 28 Nov 2007 14:03:05 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-5503 Been there, done that, and re-visit that scenario every now and then! What a nice, real look inside. :) Been there, done that, and re-visit that scenario every now and then!

What a nice, real look inside. :)

]]> By: Leann I Am http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-4610 Leann I Am Sun, 14 Oct 2007 20:27:25 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-4610 Wow...that sounds like most of my days! But, I just feel like I have ADD most of the time and things would be easier if I could focus more. ...and the bathroom can TOTALLY wait until tomorrow! Wow…that sounds like most of my days! But, I just feel like I have ADD most of the time and things would be easier if I could focus more.

…and the bathroom can TOTALLY wait until tomorrow!

]]> By: The Flip-Side of Depression…Normality. | Suburban Oblivion http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-4539 The Flip-Side of Depression…Normality. | Suburban Oblivion Wed, 10 Oct 2007 03:41:21 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-4539 [...] as a contrast to this post, I wanted to capture the feeling of ‘normal’, and a reminder to myself as to why [...] [...] as a contrast to this post, I wanted to capture the feeling of ‘normal’, and a reminder to myself as to why [...]

]]> By: Suburban Oblivion » Potheads Take a Hit on Depression http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3734 Suburban Oblivion » Potheads Take a Hit on Depression Thu, 16 Aug 2007 19:06:15 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3734 [...] have talked here previously about depression. It is something I have dealt with for awhile, and with the help of medication, am able to control [...] [...] have talked here previously about depression. It is something I have dealt with for awhile, and with the help of medication, am able to control [...]

]]> By: Wisconsin Mommy http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3175 Wisconsin Mommy Thu, 05 Jul 2007 19:17:01 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3175 Found you through Sarah in the Trenches...you expressed just exactly what depression feels like. Gut-wrenchingly perfect post! Found you through Sarah in the Trenches…you expressed just exactly what depression feels like. Gut-wrenchingly perfect post!

]]> By: Suburban Oblivion » Because I Suck That Way http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3134 Suburban Oblivion » Because I Suck That Way Tue, 03 Jul 2007 03:24:26 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3134 [...] Also, I was tickled pink to find out Sarah at In the Trenches of Mommyhood (don’t ya love that name??) has bestowed upon me my very first Perfect Post Award, for last week’s post about depression. [...] [...] Also, I was tickled pink to find out Sarah at In the Trenches of Mommyhood (don’t ya love that name??) has bestowed upon me my very first Perfect Post Award, for last week’s post about depression. [...]

]]> By: Petroville » Blog Archive » A Perfect Post - June’07 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3123 Petroville » Blog Archive » A Perfect Post - June’07 Mon, 02 Jul 2007 09:02:18 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3123 [...] awarded @ Home in the World Masked Mom awarded Superfantastic In the Trenches of Mommyhood awarded Suburban Oblivion Believer in Balance awarded Twas Brillig Bub and Pie awarded Toddled Dredge Whirlwind awarded [...] [...] awarded @ Home in the World Masked Mom awarded Superfantastic In the Trenches of Mommyhood awarded Suburban Oblivion Believer in Balance awarded Twas Brillig Bub and Pie awarded Toddled Dredge Whirlwind awarded [...]

]]> By: Jo http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3099 Jo Sat, 30 Jun 2007 15:15:05 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3099 Hmmmm, I think we share the same kids and Hubby. Scary I know. In that case do you think you could keep them all this week? ;) Honestly though, I can completely relate and know what an emotional suck it all is each day. I'm sorry you have to deal with it and if I can ever do anything to make your day brighter (I've been told I'm kinda funny for an Amazon) let me know. Big hugz hun Hmmmm, I think we share the same kids and Hubby. Scary I know. In that case do you think you could keep them all this week? ;)

Honestly though, I can completely relate and know what an emotional suck it all is each day. I’m sorry you have to deal with it and if I can ever do anything to make your day brighter (I’ve been told I’m kinda funny for an Amazon) let me know.

Big hugz hun

]]> By: Tina http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3031 Tina Wed, 27 Jun 2007 12:26:31 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-3031 I've had days like that. Thank God it wa sonly a day here and a day there. I cannotimagine living like that day after day. Sometimes I think, that medicine is not the answer to depression. So I am probably going against the grain here. In situations like that - it seems as though some kind of physical life change is necessary. I’ve had days like that.

Thank God it wa sonly a day here and a day there. I cannotimagine living like that day after day.

Sometimes I think, that medicine is not the answer to depression. So I am probably going against the grain here. In situations like that – it seems as though some kind of physical life change is necessary.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-2985 Dawn Sat, 23 Jun 2007 13:09:26 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-2985 and as a Ps _ Thanks for writing it, because it really does help me to know that I'm not the world's worst mom for feeling like this. Seriously. and as a Ps _ Thanks for writing it, because it really does help me to know that I’m not the world’s worst mom for feeling like this. Seriously.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-2984 Dawn Sat, 23 Jun 2007 13:08:45 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-2984 I have written this, too. I wrote it to release some of the shit that'd accumulated in my brain. The problem with THAT is that people then assume you're ready to slit your wrists, or give the kids the nyquil. It's not THAT bad, it just sucks to get up ... Every.... single.....day. I'm right there with ya. Truly. I have written this, too. I wrote it to release some of the shit that’d accumulated in my brain. The problem with THAT is that people then assume you’re ready to slit your wrists, or give the kids the nyquil. It’s not THAT bad, it just sucks to get up … Every…. single…..day.

I’m right there with ya. Truly.

]]> By: Southern Fried Mom http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-2977 Southern Fried Mom Fri, 22 Jun 2007 23:04:46 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2007/06/20/depression-a-view-from-the-inside/#comment-2977 I could not have said it better myself...and, unfortunately I've been there. Thanks for your honesty, and I hope your post helped by allowing you to release some frustration. I could not have said it better myself…and, unfortunately I’ve been there. Thanks for your honesty, and I hope your post helped by allowing you to release some frustration.

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