Comments on: Sometimes it Takes Getting Bitch-Slapped to Remind You How Good You Have It.

By: Missy

Missy — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 13:16:15 +0000

Yes – i have those complaining days too – they are called everyday – but I certainly agree my life would feel incomplete if I never had kids.

And yes those little reminders are So necessary – I forget how great my 4 yr old can be. In the middle of trying to enjoy her while at the same time keeping her “in line” is a fuzzy line.

By: FeeFiFoto

FeeFiFoto — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 23:34:33 +0000

I love my kids more than the air I breathe, and I went through fertility treatments for both of them. And yes, they make me insane regularly; they also make me proud regularly. Perfectly behaved kids would be more boring than white rice, and who wants that?

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 05:53:00 +0000

While they certainly are blessings – children can also be … uh… something else! LOL! It is sooo much better to vent every once in awhile rather than letting it build up into resentment or even worse – abuse! I know you cherish them -even when they are driving you crazy!

By: Jamie (Blonde Mom Blog)

Jamie (Blonde Mom Blog) — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 02:48:13 +0000

Everyone has those “wonder how much I should list my kid with a Buy it Now bid on eBay” days. Good Lord I have a 5-year-old daughter whose mood swings today just about drove me to break out the tequila by 11 a.m.

Everyone needs a time and a place to vent. Blogging is just a newer and much more visible outlet for mothers, so it’s easier for naysayers to wag a finger at us because our venting sessions are in writing and available to anyone with an Internet connection and an opinion. Personally I think it’s much healthier to admit that parenting is hard, damn hard, then to tra la la in the daisy fields acting like our kids are perfect angels and that every moment is a blessing we want to frame and hang on the wall.

I love my daughters more than anything in this world and I know I am lucky to be a mother, but there are days they drive me nuts and it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in that feeling!

Self-righteous people who take on a holier than thou attitude generally are either pretty insecure or jealous. Or both.

Keep on blogging your true thoughts on parenting. People with a sense of humor and a healthy outlook will “get it.”

By: becky

becky — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 15:46:08 +0000

You handled this way better that I did when I read that comment!
If we Mom’s can not vent about a bad day in a very funny way then what can we do???
I don’t know how many times at the end of a hard day with the kids that I have looked at my husband and told him if tomarrow is not any easier than it was today then I will put up the ebay draft up and lease them out to someone else.
I don’t know how many times the next day that it was harder than the day before yet still have yet to do what I have said i was going to.
I love my kids. You love your kids.
Sometimes a vent like yours is needed.
I have yet to become comfortable in the blog world to write about my bad days….maybe its time.
Keep on cause you are doing a fine job!

By: Mary

Mary — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 14:52:13 +0000

I went through 11 years of infertility… and I never got upset about parents complaining about their kids.

Now watching the news and hearing all of the horrible things going on in the REAL WORLD concerning innocent children? Now THAT made me cry bitter and angry tears.

Complaining about the kids is just a way for us to vent and stay sane. I can’t imagine life without my kids even though they drive me ape sh*t at times.

BTW, I probably wouldn’t sell mine, but I might think about leasing them.

By: VDog

VDog — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 05:02:46 +0000

I thought your original post was funny. Nothing more serious than a vent.

Glad you are handling this like a champ.

It’s true, motherhood can be a BEYOTCH sometimes, but of course we love and appreciate our kids. Like Candace says…”Not that I Don’t Love My Kids.” Hehhehehe.

By: Beckie

Beckie — Sat, 27 Oct 2007 15:00:04 +0000

I wouldn’t trade Charity for anything in the world, but she is 3, which means some days I want to run far far away where nobody can find me!

By: moosh in indy.

moosh in indy. — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 20:46:08 +0000

Oh, so much drama.
My kid may be the best kid in the entire universe, but I keep that draft on eBay just. in. case.

By: Mrs. G.

Mrs. G. — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 06:09:07 +0000

Don’t lose your sense of humor, because when your kids become teenagers, honey, you are going to need it. Trust me on this one.

By: Antman

Antman — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 20:52:39 +0000

Your response was spot on. You clearly are introspective and that is what I am taking away from this post. Your are comfortable enough in yourself to reflect and say hey, she is right. I am lucky and yes, my worse day doesn’t touch the loss of not havin’ em at all.

Well done Sub, ya emotional maturity is shining through!

By: ~JJ!

~JJ! — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 16:21:24 +0000

You are so right.
And I think we all, as stressed out ‘humans’ deserve a little bitch slappin’ once in a while…

That’s why we are here…to help each other get along in this life. And sometimes we need to be reminded the good is there as well as the bad.

Bloggin’ should be about joy, sadness, love, venting…sharing everything that we would do with friends IRL…but more…because for some reason, we all feel safer expressing our deepest thoughts here.

A good bitchfest is mandatory as well as a good bitchslap…now and then…we just have to be ‘nice’ about it all…

Love you and your readers.

By: Velveteen Mind Megan

Velveteen Mind Megan — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 12:44:11 +0000

The fact that anyone would bitch at Charming Driver or interpret her comment as that she would suggest that one person’s problems could or should be compared to another’s, well, wow.

If anyone knows that we all have our own cross to bear and that playing the “my life is worse than yours” game is pointless, it’s Charming Driver. Or, even better, the “I have no right to complain because your life is worse than mine.” Pointless, too.

Bad days are bad days. The hierarchy of bad is irrelevant.

Charming Driver is the “life as roller coaster” queen. She gets it. Read her. You’ll get it, too.

By: cate

cate — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 04:32:25 +0000

i have been vicariously bitch-slapped!

By: karen meg

karen meg — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 02:26:14 +0000

Wow, you handled that really well. I’ve seen major mudslinging on some blogs, nasty, nasty, but this was very civilized.
I for one thought your original post was hilarious. Without reproductive technology, I wouldn’t be a mom, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have wretched days courtesy of my 2 year old either.
Love your blog

By: Alli ~Mrs. Fussypant

Alli ~Mrs. Fussypant — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 02:17:18 +0000

I’ll soon have 5 boys. I wonder what I could get for a really cute one on ebay?
We ALL have those days. Even those of us who don’t openly admit it.
Sara, we all love ya & read ya because you SAY IT FOR US!

By: CharmingDriver

CharmingDriver — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 02:12:51 +0000

….I am used to getting heated email because of posts on my own blog but seriously a dozen emails later, let me say it clearly: I never said Sara (or anyone else for that matter) doesn’t have the right to complain or vent about a bad day. I know that one life cannot compare to another and that we all have our own crosses to bear; I get that, honestly. I wasn’t looking to guilt anyone or ask that anyone who isn’t me to make my own (or again, anyone else’s) life better. Seriously. Pinky swear.

My only point was that some days are harder than others which was pretty much what Sara was saying to begin with: everyday isn’t sunshine and puppies, for her or anyone. Honestly, that was it, that was all, no more or no less.

By: Mrs. Flinger

Mrs. Flinger — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 01:34:26 +0000

Uh, yea, what they said. Of course I love my children. Of course. Of. Course. but DAYAM they drive me batty. Don’t feel guilty for being honest. Just genuinely wish other people well while appreciating (and bitching) about your own life.

BTW: LOVE me some daddy drive. That. Was. Hilarious.

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 23:18:18 +0000

Sara – I just can’t say how much I admire your response to being bitch-slapped – it’s tempting for me to get defensive when attacked, but you kept yourself full of grace and good humor -while not cowering in the corner either. Motherhood is a hard gig sometimes!

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 22:14:30 +0000

Sara, don’t feel one OUNCE of guilt for your previous post.

I think that comment was out of line.

The point of life is to live in the moment. To feel whatever it is we’re feeling IN THE MOMENT! And the feelings are ok to have, even the bad ones. It’s just life.

My heart feels for those who struggle and/or can not have children. But their struggles are not an excuse to get self-righteous at a mother who’s simply having a bad day. And that whole 2-4 year toddler range….it’s enough to make even the most loving parent want to get rid of the kid.

I know you, shit we practically are roommates as close as we live from one another, and I know you appreciate your kids too….just as much as any other mother who loves her kids. You’re allowed to have bad days with the kids Sara. Not only are you allowed, it’s OK too!! I promise. It’s ok!

Feel on chickie!