Comments on: The Mommyblogger Who Isn’t

By: Genevieve

Genevieve — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 14:01:55 +0000

You are you. As life goes on we change and adapt (or we're supposed to). I'm not who I was at 17 or 26 or even 30. The labels I gave myself then mostly don't apply now. They did however feel like anchors to my life. It would be difficult if they were all pulled in and I was left feeling afloat. Up a creek without a paddle, as they say. That being said, once a mom always a mom. It doesn't matter if they're newborn or 60 — you'll always see the world through the lenses of a mother. And also a woman, person, friend, daughter, etc. Those are the identities that can't be changed.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 00:45:56 +0000

Don't even get me started! This post summarizes the entire theme of my own blog. Just because we have kids does not mean we aren't still individuals first. It also doesn't mean that we have to drive mini-vans or (pretend to) enjoy PTA meetings or only blog about our doting husbands and perfect kids. How boring (and full of shit) would that be anyway?!

By: mom, again

mom, again — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 00:55:53 +0000

you’re still a mom, & the mommy blogging world can use all of the non-standard mom’s it can possibly gain. cause quite a few of us out here need to know we are not alone in being outside the usual bounds of motherhood.

By: Domestic Spaz

Domestic Spaz — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 21:41:44 +0000

Your blog is about you and all the changes you go through in your life… no need to put yourself into one corner or another. Your blog should evolve as you do.

All of us are moms… but all of us are individuals with identities outside of being a mom. And that’s a good thing.

By: Bella

Bella — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:29:28 +0000

As one who has always tried to avoid labels, I understand the comfort they bring. Just remember that through our lives, we change--and those who care about us will be there to help us rip off the old labels and find new ones that bring us comfort. And like others have said, the only labels that really matter are those we give ourselves. I am an every-other-week, divorced mom and I blog; I consider myself a mommy blogger. You are still a mommy blogger, too. I know it's hard, but redefining oneself can be liberating. Bella’s last blog post..Tell Me Thursday - Moving

By: Summer

Summer — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 04:24:37 +0000

Your label is that you are just you. And you rock. Summer’s last blog post..Childbirth And Empowerment

By: Paul OFlaherty

Paul OFlaherty — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:39:37 +0000

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By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 21:11:25 +0000

I quickly found that I just don’t really fit into any sort of category. I’m so random and all over the place with my blog, my general writing, and even my thoughts. One day I’m screaming about divorce papers, and the next annoying drivers. One day I’m happy as a clam (I don’t understand that expression) and the next I’m screaming and crying from stress. Forget trying to shove yourself into a category. You have always been in one all your own, even when you were a full-time soccer mom. Also, you don’t have to be a full-time mom to still be a Mommy. Your children still mean as much to you today as they did last year. Just because you’re not with them every moment doesn’t mean you’re any less their mom.

I agree, the freedom of starting over is overwhelming. The challenges of being a single mom, of trying to find your identity separate from someone you spent years with (even if they were years filled with much misery), it’s not easy. But it sure is liberating.

By: Cute~Ella

Cute~Ella — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 20:21:16 +0000

Why do we need labels? You just write what you need to get out there. Cute~Ella’s last blog post..Please allow me to introduce:

By: Tim

Tim — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 19:50:41 +0000

The only labels that matter are the ones we apply to ourselves. If you want to be a mommy blogger, you’re a mommy blogger. You’ve given birth, and you blog. Cut yourself some slack.