Comments on: You Can’t Do That on Television..or in Blogging For That Matter. http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/ Breaking All the Rules I Didn't Make Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:32:00 -0600 hourly 1 By: Pando http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8439 Pando Sat, 11 Jul 2009 12:56:37 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8439 Some people are uncomfortable reading honest accounts of other peoples lives because they are used to hiding all of their own mistakes and "sins". Seeing other people talk about these things openly makes them defensive because they themselves are afraid to be honest. In other words...They are just jealous. ;) Some people are uncomfortable reading honest accounts of other peoples lives because they are used to hiding all of their own mistakes and "sins". Seeing other people talk about these things openly makes them defensive because they themselves are afraid to be honest. In other words…They are just jealous. ;)

]]> By: WigenOut http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8438 WigenOut Sat, 11 Jul 2009 03:18:34 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8438 That was THE show to watch on Nick back then. As for your blog, it's YOURS. Do with it as you feel. I love that you're so open and honest. I felt like I knew you before I met you in real life. It made it very easy to become friends with you and know that you are someone I wanted to get to know. When I first started reading your blog I thought it would be cool to meet since we both live in the same town. You're honest and that's what we need more of in this screwed up world. If your blog has made your ex think about . the crap he's put you through and tone it down, then that's even better for you and the kids. I'm always here for you. Don't change who you are to make others happy. Be yourself and to those you don't like it, maybe they shouldn't come back. That was THE show to watch on Nick back then. As for your blog, it's YOURS. Do with it as you feel. I love that you're so open and honest. I felt like I knew you before I met you in real life. It made it very easy to become friends with you and know that you are someone I wanted to get to know. When I first started reading your blog I thought it would be cool to meet since we both live in the same town. You're honest and that's what we need more of in this screwed up world. If your blog has made your ex think about . the crap he's put you through and tone it down, then that's even better for you and the kids. I'm always here for you. Don't change who you are to make others happy. Be yourself and to those you don't like it, maybe they shouldn't come back.

]]> By: Cyndi http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8433 Cyndi Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:00:14 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8433 I used to LOVE that show! :) I couldn't agree more. Why should we all feel ashamed of being human? It's a superficial waste of time to pretend we are anything other than what we are. Sharing personal info IS therapy and whenever we do it, we hear from others who felt exactly the same way or did the exact same thing, don't we? Anyone who is critical of this philosophy or anything you blog about is probably not being real themselves and can always change the channel. I used to LOVE that show! :)

I couldn't agree more. Why should we all feel ashamed of being human? It's a superficial waste of time to pretend we are anything other than what we are. Sharing personal info IS therapy and whenever we do it, we hear from others who felt exactly the same way or did the exact same thing, don't we? Anyone who is critical of this philosophy or anything you blog about is probably not being real themselves and can always change the channel.

]]> By: melissa http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8431 melissa Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:07:18 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8431 that's why i love reading your blog. even though i don't always comment. because when i come here, i know it's a real person i'm reading! you are awesome. i've told ya that before but don't let it get to your head ;) xo that's why i love reading your blog. even though i don't always comment. because when i come here, i know it's a real person i'm reading! you are awesome. i've told ya that before but don't let it get to your head ;)
xo

]]> By: Kasandria http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8428 Kasandria Wed, 08 Jul 2009 19:42:50 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8428 I absolutely LOVED that show! They should bring back the SLIME lol. Enjoyed reading your blog. Keep up the good work! Kas I absolutely LOVED that show! They should bring back the SLIME lol. Enjoyed reading your blog. Keep up the good work!
Kas

]]> By: feener http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8427 feener Wed, 08 Jul 2009 17:19:42 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8427 sara funny thing about my kid comment. as i thought about my comment to you, i realized my last post was me bitching about my kids. i think that it is GREAT that the ex has toned down and yes if the fact that his crap is being printed on line that kudos to you....thank you for answering me directly as well as being considerate and kind in your response. i really don't like the HATE that is sometimes thrown through the blogosphere. i do blog for support and therapy so when i say hate around it turns me off. ps i had read about the herpes stuff and it just seems so wasteful on his part, and he seems to be digging himself a hole on that one. sara
funny thing about my kid comment. as i thought about my comment to you, i realized my last post was me bitching about my kids. i think that it is GREAT that the ex has toned down and yes if the fact that his crap is being printed on line that kudos to you….thank you for answering me directly as well as being considerate and kind in your response. i really don't like the HATE that is sometimes thrown through the blogosphere. i do blog for support and therapy so when i say hate around it turns me off. ps i had read about the herpes stuff and it just seems so wasteful on his part, and he seems to be digging himself a hole on that one.

]]> By: Kristina http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8426 Kristina Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:50:15 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8426 Well said, Sara! What are blogs for, if not for getting things off your chest, the good, the bad and the ugly. Well said, Sara! What are blogs for, if not for getting things off your chest, the good, the bad and the ugly.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8425 Jennifer Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:26:24 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8425 I think it's great that you put it all out there! It's not like your naming names and asking everyone who reads it to harass the people that are written about. I hope everything turns out in your favor, sooner rather than later! I think it's great that you put it all out there! It's not like your naming names and asking everyone who reads it to harass the people that are written about. I hope everything turns out in your favor, sooner rather than later!

]]> By: Suburban Oblivion http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8424 Suburban Oblivion Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:47:45 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8424 Hi Feener, thanks for the comment, and no offense taken. As far as my ex goes, two points. 1. He brought this public before I did. I filed for divorce based on irreparable breakdown of the marriage, and instead of keeping things simple, he then filed a response outlining the details of my affair. He then found out he'd contracted herpes, and filed a lawsuit against me for it. (Sadly for him I've tested negative twice, so he's got some explaining to do.) I would have been happy to make this all all neat and simple as possible, he is the one who has chosen to make this a battle, and one for public record at that. I don't use my last name anywhere online, you cannot find my blog by searching for me, so while yes I write about the stuff he does, the effect is limited because you have to know me personally to know who he is. Unlike the allegations of herpes and details of my affair, which thanks to him are in legal documents for anyone to search, with my full name. 2. His lawyer can't really do anything about it, because the first rule of suing someone for libel is that you have to be able to prove what is printed is not true, and the simple fact is he can't, because it's all true. He has actually toned down his crap considerably since I've started coming out with this stuff, and I strongly suspect it's because he's realized that if he doesn't do it, I can't write about it. Silence is the number one reason abusers get away with what they do- because no one knows about it. Finally, as far as writing about my kids on my blog..well, that's the question as old as mommyblogging isn't it? ;) Hi Feener, thanks for the comment, and no offense taken.

As far as my ex goes, two points. 1. He brought this public before I did. I filed for divorce based on irreparable breakdown of the marriage, and instead of keeping things simple, he then filed a response outlining the details of my affair. He then found out he'd contracted herpes, and filed a lawsuit against me for it. (Sadly for him I've tested negative twice, so he's got some explaining to do.) I would have been happy to make this all all neat and simple as possible, he is the one who has chosen to make this a battle, and one for public record at that. I don't use my last name anywhere online, you cannot find my blog by searching for me, so while yes I write about the stuff he does, the effect is limited because you have to know me personally to know who he is. Unlike the allegations of herpes and details of my affair, which thanks to him are in legal documents for anyone to search, with my full name.
2. His lawyer can't really do anything about it, because the first rule of suing someone for libel is that you have to be able to prove what is printed is not true, and the simple fact is he can't, because it's all true.

He has actually toned down his crap considerably since I've started coming out with this stuff, and I strongly suspect it's because he's realized that if he doesn't do it, I can't write about it. Silence is the number one reason abusers get away with what they do- because no one knows about it.

Finally, as far as writing about my kids on my blog..well, that's the question as old as mommyblogging isn't it? ;)

]]> By: Feener http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8422 Feener Tue, 07 Jul 2009 23:31:43 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8422 ok, I am going to be very honest and i hope not to hurt feelings. My first thought when I read this post was, folks people write memoirs about far worse things that have happened in their lives and they get paid the big bucks for it, and a bunch of them go to number one on the bestseller list. So why is it wrong for a blogger to do it. In the same breath I do find when I read your past posts about your divorce/kids/affair I feel like it is wrong, maybe b/c I am thinking of the other people who have not chosen to put their life out there and yet they are having it shared, i.e. your kids, your ex (dick or NOT). I just think it seems to raw to be writing about it. I also would feel that you are exacerbating a situation. I would think the lawyers could have a field day with what you put out there, and I would NOT want to give the lawyers anything to use against me. I don't comment with nasty words for you OR tell you what to do, I am just trying to give you insight to maybe some thoughts of why people are thinking things shouldn't be shared, at least at this stage of the situation. ok, I am going to be very honest and i hope not to hurt feelings. My first thought when I read this post was, folks people write memoirs about far worse things that have happened in their lives and they get paid the big bucks for it, and a bunch of them go to number one on the bestseller list. So why is it wrong for a blogger to do it. In the same breath I do find when I read your past posts about your divorce/kids/affair I feel like it is wrong, maybe b/c I am thinking of the other people who have not chosen to put their life out there and yet they are having it shared, i.e. your kids, your ex (dick or NOT). I just think it seems to raw to be writing about it. I also would feel that you are exacerbating a situation. I would think the lawyers could have a field day with what you put out there, and I would NOT want to give the lawyers anything to use against me. I don't comment with nasty words for you OR tell you what to do, I am just trying to give you insight to maybe some thoughts of why people are thinking things shouldn't be shared, at least at this stage of the situation.

]]> By: The Big Blue Frog http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8421 The Big Blue Frog Tue, 07 Jul 2009 20:33:38 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8421 I still self-censor a lot on my own blog. I'm not sure why, at this point. Maybe I need to loosen up a little. I've started getting a little farther and farther outside my comfort zone in the last couple of years, so you never know what will be next. I still self-censor a lot on my own blog. I'm not sure why, at this point. Maybe I need to loosen up a little. I've started getting a little farther and farther outside my comfort zone in the last couple of years, so you never know what will be next.

]]> By: Jolene http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8420 Jolene Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:40:46 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8420 You know, it's YOUR blog so screw them. Share whatever you want, say whatever you want, and if they don't like it then there's no law that says they have to read it. Existing out of your blog is very easy if they don't like the content. I love how people think a comment button gives them the right to tell us how to live our lives and what we're allowed to share. You keep being you and the hell with them. ;) Wow, I think I need more caffeine cuz I'm bitchy aren't I? LMAO You know, it's YOUR blog so screw them. Share whatever you want, say whatever you want, and if they don't like it then there's no law that says they have to read it. Existing out of your blog is very easy if they don't like the content.

I love how people think a comment button gives them the right to tell us how to live our lives and what we're allowed to share.

You keep being you and the hell with them. ;) Wow, I think I need more caffeine cuz I'm bitchy aren't I? LMAO

]]> By: Steven Hodson http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8419 Steven Hodson Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:55:15 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8419 bravo! bravo!

]]> By: Hilly http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8418 Hilly Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:36:46 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8418 Amen amen amen! I am the same way...I talk about everything and anything on my blog and would completely rather do that then be the other way. I like the freedom of being completely honest and being completely myself. Amen amen amen!

I am the same way…I talk about everything and anything on my blog and would completely rather do that then be the other way. I like the freedom of being completely honest and being completely myself.

]]> By: Summer http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8417 Summer Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:10:52 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8417 Ignore the haters, they're just jealous they don't have your guts. Ignore the haters, they're just jealous they don't have your guts.

]]> By: Chazon http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8416 Chazon Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:58:05 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8416 What you do is no-one's business except your own. I tried to "fit the mold" for so long, but I learned that you have to do for yourself first. If it helps you, then keep at it - don't change because of what others think. What you do is no-one's business except your own. I tried to "fit the mold" for so long, but I learned that you have to do for yourself first. If it helps you, then keep at it – don't change because of what others think.

]]> By: DSBelle http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8415 DSBelle Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:14:53 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8415 Why not, indeed? I think that is one of the areas I went wrong with my blog: I stopped talking about the overly personal stuff. I used to bitch about my job, neighbors, and husband on a regular basis, but those posts gave me some funny stuff, as well as a connection to people that I don't feel I have now. Why not, indeed? I think that is one of the areas I went wrong with my blog: I stopped talking about the overly personal stuff. I used to bitch about my job, neighbors, and husband on a regular basis, but those posts gave me some funny stuff, as well as a connection to people that I don't feel I have now.

]]> By: remarkablogger http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-9227 remarkablogger Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:00:17 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-9227 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">RT @subrbanoblivion: You Can’t Do That on Television..or in Blogging For That Matter. http://bit.ly/bOijV</span></span> RT @subrbanoblivion: You Can’t Do That on Television..or in Blogging For That Matter. http://bit.ly/bOijV

]]> By: Goon Squad Sarah http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/2009/07/07/you-cant-do-that-on-television-or-in-blogging-for-that-matter/#comment-8413 Goon Squad Sarah Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:49:30 +0000 http://www.suburbanoblivion.com/?p=719#comment-8413 Yeah! Why not? I say talk about whatever you want. It is your blog. Yeah! Why not?

I say talk about whatever you want. It is your blog.

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