Comments on: Standing Up to the Harassment

By: Brother in Law’s Obsession is Apparently Making Him Delusional | Suburban Oblivion

Mon, 12 Oct 2009 14:21:22 +0000

[...] I wrote last week about getting a very nice email back from Mark’s work regarding the nasty messages he was leaving on my blog from their internet. [...]

By: Update on the Ex Brother-In-Law Drama..Errr..Situation | Suburban Oblivion

Update on the Ex Brother-In-Law Drama..Errr..Situation | Suburban Oblivion — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 22:02:09 +0000

[...] and sweet, finally heard back from the people at the ex’s brother’s work where I had to report him for harassing me through my blog on company time. Hello [...]

By: DSB

DSB — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:21:46 +0000

Good for you! I would not take it anymore, either. All that and not to mention, he went and commented on all your readers' sites, too. I can see siding with his brother, but damn. Nothing that concerns you is any of his business now.

By: Pando

Pando — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 15:42:49 +0000

Is this the same guy that went and left nasty comments about you on everyone's blog who commented here? Sigh. Is he not actually required to work when he is at work? Seriously, where does he find the time to do this shit?

By: dysfunctional mom

dysfunctional mom — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 10:08:15 +0000

I say good for you! He shouldn't get away with that.

By: Timo Steffensen

Timo Steffensen — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 17:31:54 +0000

This things really happens on a online social networking site and if you are not aware on how other people care about it will be a disaster if you don't realize what went wrong and what did I do wrong. We can do a lot of things online and we should know our limitations to avoid some bad feed backs. And Sara you are you are amazing for standing up and realizing whats really best for you.

By: @ThePriss

@ThePriss — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 11:00:19 +0000

I wouldn't even know where to begin. He either thinks you're stupid or he is too ignorant to realize that an IP report is super easy to obtain. On top of that, IT can go in and print out a full report of what he's been doing online on company time. The only limitation is how long they keep that history.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 00:20:59 +0000

Do you know how much I love you? I am so proud of how strong you have become in these past few months though i always knew you had it in you! Clearly someone(s) underestimated you. Clearly they thought that meek complacent Sara was still around. HA. I <3 you and Matt and I are super proud! Get em girl!

By: Al.

Al. — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:57:33 +0000

Randomer drive-by comment: fair fucks to ya. Well done on actually carrying through on emailing the employer. Post up what kind of response you get from them.

By: Christine

Christine — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 14:41:15 +0000

Congratulations for growing some balls! I'm so proud of you. I'm sure the employer will do something about this because no company wants to become part of a legal dispute. You have definately become a much stronger woman.

By: karen sugarpants

karen sugarpants — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 04:31:12 +0000

Totally high-fiveing you from Canada, sister. Wow. Way to go. Youse gots balls.

By: Gina

Gina — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 02:33:59 +0000

Good for you for not putting up with it! I hope the company takes action.

By: Raychel Celeste

Raychel Celeste — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:05:56 +0000

You did what you had to do. I've actually been in a similar situation with internet and phone harassment. I tried to deal with actual offender, but when that didn't work.. I found his family and went to them. I definitely would have gone to his employer if I knew it was happening while at work. This kind of harassment is just childish and creepy. Some people just don't know when enough is enough.

By: @StevenHodson

@StevenHodson — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 21:38:23 +0000

Sara – you rock girl!

By: Lala

Lala — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 21:30:03 +0000

you know what's weird to me? my HUSBAND had an affair and it's taken me a year and a half to develop enough anger to divorce him. I don't know where people get the energy to harrass their own spouses in these situations, much less siblings spouses. It blows my mind.

By: Sarah Lena

Sarah Lena — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 21:27:34 +0000

I hope this gets resolved. I had to do this with my (now-husband, then-) boyfriend's ex about four years ago. I sent all of the nasty, horrible emails she had sent to me.. all of them on her company email and signed with her company signature icon. Her manager apologized profusely and promised to speak to her.

He did, and she promised she would stop.

About a month later, he checked the internet history on her work computer one random workday. Of her eight paid hours, she had spent five of them online, repeatedly refreshing my site close to every four minutes. He emailed me personally to let me know that he had let her go.. and that I might want to seek a protective order.

By: Momma Sunshine

Momma Sunshine — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:57:53 +0000

I'm new to your blog and don't know your back-story, but I just wanted to applaud you for standing up for yourself against this harassment. Affair or not, no one deserves to be treated in this way. Good for you for standing up for yourself! I can relate to what you're feeling though – I was the one who decided to end my marriage and have felt sometimes like I somehow "deserve" the poor treatment that I have received on behalf of my ex and his group of friends. But you know what? It's NOT deserved. Sometimes I just have to remind myself of that.

I applaud you for sticking up for yourself. You should definitely feel proud.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:49:55 +0000

I think you did what you had to do. It's clearly not going to stop until you take drastic action like contacting his work. Saying crappy things immediately after the breakup is almost normal, considering family loyalty and all. However, still stalking around the internet finding ways to harass and annoy you a year and a half later goes above and beyond brotherly loyalty. It's downright creepy and sick.

By: Jamie E

Jamie E — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:52:55 +0000

Wow, disturbing. I almost hope he loses his job. Talk about a whack-job, I guess he needs to look in the mirror, no? I can almost(ALMOST) understand your Ex doing these obsessive things, but his brother? That is just weird, it is not like you haven't been very transparent about EVERYTHING, and you certainly didn't need to be, but you fessed up, you slept on the couch, you are divorcing, what more does this guy want out of you? Maybe his motivation is to push into another desperate act, thereby helping his brother with custody? Idk, weird, just weird.

By: Paul OFlaherty

Paul OFlaherty — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:21:12 +0000

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