So why don’t you egt off your high and mighty horse and think about this over your next Martini. How is Sara supposed to have a life with her kids and rebuild with them is she is unable to afford to keep a roof over her head while she finds a job?

What she was awarded by the court is her income. It is her means of sustaining herself until there is a paycheck coming in! And you would suggest she just give that up, and what, become destitute?

What use is she to her children if she doesn’t have a place to see them, a home for them to stay at of the ability to put food in front of them! She has that ability now while she looks for a job, but if she were to take your advice she would have nothing at all!

Get off your undeserved moral high horse and actually use your brain for a minute!

If I truly wanted to be free from the ex (and what woman in her right mind wouldn’t under the circumstances), I’d give him whatever price he wanted for the contents. If that’s the price of my freedom, I’d pay it because freedom itself is priceless. Hell, I’d let him have all the contents, minus my clothing and personal items, and walk away. I’d walk towards freedom and begin rebuilding my life with my children.

If I were the ex and truly wanted to be free from you (and what man in his right mind wouldn’t under the circumstances), I’d let you have everything in the house, down to the last fork. You could have it all if it meant I could get my kids back in their home and back on the road to a stable (I won’t say normal because what does that mean?) life.

These are things, just tangible, material things. You can not win the game of Life by fighting over the material. Money and objects are not only replaceable but hollow. It is the intangible that matters. Freedom. Joy. Love.

Sara, I used to know you well, though we know that has changed in the past two years. Is this who you truly are? Maybe I’m a fool, but something in my heart still tells me no.

Focus on the Bigger Picture and let God take care of the details. The Universe always makes sure you have what you need.

You know how I feel about this fucking custody bullshit. It’s a completely fucked up system and the courts really need to pull their heads out of their asses and quit worrying about this “father’s rights” bullshit and REALLY look at what’s best for the kids. Half the time when the wives/mothers end up in the psych ward it’s BECAUSE of these assholes.

Fucking pricks.

Call me next week. Or I can call you.

What a douchebag though over the house situation. Typical asshole move though – oh, sure, I don’t want anything in the house – but I’m gonna sell it out from under you as soon as humanly possible! ugh, I’m so sorry hon.

And as for the kids, I’m sure they’ll be fine, but I can’t imagine how difficult his having custody must be. Not for long though! I’m sure the courts just want “their” psych to evaluate you, and you’ll have those kids back in no time. Courts are generally in favor of having the kids with the mother regardless.

I hope that once you have a minute to process everything, that you’ll be able to breathe again. You’re so incredibly strong, I admire you, seriously! Hang in there – you’ll get through it. You’ve made it this far, so you’ve just gotta keep going, right?

Hugs to you, and cheers to having a divorce decree to be thankful for this Thanksgiving!

Your friend, Laura

All I can say is: Karma’s a bitch. He’ll get his. I hope it’s swift and hard too.

The good news is if he violates the court orders, there are consequences, and every attempt should be made to be sure he complies. Good luck!